How to Become a Leader in Your Own Life!

Step out of your fear and insecurities and step in to your calling- Craig Groeschel

The Global Leadership Summit 2019

I recently attended the Global Leadership Summit (via satellite) and for two days, I listened to 15 leaders in business, award wining authors, and highly successful media influencers. The Summit was live streamed to more than 400,00 people in 135 countries. The Summit is put on each year by faith based ministers who:

“Hope that God will use the Summit to challenge you where you need to be challenged, equip you for the limitless opportunities ahead of you and inspire you to turn your God-given grander vision into a reality”

For two days, I furiously took notes, trying to capture every piece of advice and every lesson learned, and how I too could learn how to face and conquer my fears. I learned how people turned small dreams into worldwide success. In this blog post, I would like to share some key lessons from three of the speakers that inspired me. These lessons can be applied to both your personal and professional life.

Jia Jiang: Best-Selling Author; Blogger; Entrepreneur

When Jia was thirty years old, his parents sent him a letter he wrote as a child. It had aspirations and goals on it that Jia had not achieved yet. His wife noticed how unhappy he was, and she encouraged him to pursue his entrepreneurial journey.

He pitched an idea to an investor who sent him an email declining the opportunity with no explanation why. The thought of the road of rejection he was starting on made him realize that his fear of rejection was what was going to stand in his way of reaching his dreams.

Rejection Therapy

Jia researched how he could overcome the fear of rejection and wasn’t impressed by the articles telling him to not take it personally. He found a website called Rejection Therapy. It’s a game created around a deck of cards. For 30 days, it challenges people to do things to get rejected and at the end become desensitized to rejection.

  • He decided to do it for 100 days instead of 30 and vlog about it.
  • He was rejected left and right, then all of the sudden people started saying yes.
  • His vlog went viral and people started sharing their rejection stories with him online.

Story of Acceptance

Jia learned from his experience that if you overcome fear, you can make some real changes in your life. Jia states that fear is just a numbers game. In the 100 days, Jia asked for something absurd, and someone said yes to him. He asked for something moderate and someone would say no to him, but if he asked enough people, he finally got a yes. He just had to ask enough people.

He told the story of J.K. Rowling, the Harry Potter author who received 12 rejections trying to get her book published. He explained that rejection is nothing more than opinion- the preference of the rejecter.

Jia’s experence of 100 days of rejection ended up becoming one of the most popular Ted Talks of all time. Do yourself a favor and watch it, it will completely change the way you deal with rejection in your life and give you the courage to never stop trying!

Craig Groeschel: Co-Founder and Senior Pastor of Life Church

Most people desire to be better at what they do, be more efficient, and reach more people. What I enjoyed most about Craig’s speech, is that he debunked the following myths:

  • Better always costs more
  • Investing more brings greater return
  • Better quality requires more time

GETMO: Good-Enough-To-Move-On!

The pursuit of excellence will motivate you, but the pursuit of perfection will eventually limit you.

Craig Groeschek

This concept has changed the way that I approach projects that I am working on, and I have been sharing it with everyone I supervise. Craig explained how perfectionism is often the enemy of progress.

When I first started my job, I would work late every night trying to make sure that my presentations were perfect. I spent hours pouring over research and redoing my power point projects, the version I would submit would usually be the sixth or seventh version.

But what I wasn’t keeping in mind was that the more time I spent on something, I wasn’t really making it better, I was making a trade. I was trading my time with my family, participating in self care, and having work life balance for a 15 minute presentation. By the second version, I needed to GETMO, realize that my project was Good-Enough-To-Move-on! By striving for perfection, I was not as productive and was making a trade that would eventually lead to burn out.

Now, when I find myself spending an inordinate amount of time on a project I look at the sign on my computer that says GETMO, and move on!

Burn the Ships

Another concept Craig shared, was how to handle yourself when pursuing something you love, but doubt your ability to accomplish the desired result. To illustrate his point, he told the story of Hernan Cortes: The Spanish conquistador who’s crew was exhausted and wanted to give up. Hernan boldly told his crew that he would rather burn the ships than give them the option to turn back around and abandon their quest.

By eliminating the option to turn back:

  • Leaders commit to the assignment, no excuses, no retreating, and no turning back.
  • Leaders step into their position and commit to completing whatever the task is.
  • Commit to your mission, your vision and stop making excuses.

If you have a dream, burn the ships and don’t give yourself the option to give up!

Liz Bohannon: Co-founder of Sseko Designs

Liz’s spoke about how to become a more courageous, innovative and creative leader, and she shared her inspiring story. She quit her one way job, moved to Uganda, and created a program that brought millions of women out of poverty.

Dream Small

Liz’s encouragement to dream small confused me at first, until I understood how dreaming small empowers you to turn your dreams into a reality. When we dream big, it is easy to become overwhelmed by our passion, and turn what was meant to be inspirational into something that starts creating fear, anxiety and action paralysis. When you dream small you start to realize:

  • You don’t need to find your passion, but you can build it
  • You don’t need to be above average to live an extraordinary life
  • Once we can get over ourselves and our own average, we can go on to build lives of purpose, passion and impact

Liz didn’t start with bringing one million girls out of poverty; it started with knowing and making one friend who was experiencing poverty and hardship. She taught us that leaders need to do the hard work on themselves so that they can equip and inspire others to be the hero’s in their stories.

Small dreams have a surprising power of launching us out of waiting into creating. This got me thinking of my big dream of writing a book by starting with my small dream of starting a blog!

I sincelrly hope that everyone who has taken the time to read this blog has learned something that will help them become leaders in their own lives!


I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 20 years working in Community mental Health. I currently Supervise the Behavioral Health Benefit for an insurance company. I speak publicly on issues that affect mental health in the workplace.

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