Don’t fear failure. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.- Bruce Lee
As I sit staring at the key board, I have to quiet the negative voices in my head. The voices that tell me that no one will care what I have to say. The voices that tell me I am a failure and will never find true happiness.
- The Power of Fear
My fear of failure has stopped me from pursuing a career in acting, applying to law school, getting my doctorate, and writing a book. I am tired of worrying about what other people think of me and never allowing my true self to be seen or heard.
I have isolated myself from the world, all because of the fear of getting hurt or rejected. Allowing myself to be vulnerable is the only way for me to find my purpose and start doing the things that bring me joy.
2. The Power of Vulnerability
I mentioned in my introduction that I am a self proclaimed self help addict. I have scoured hundreds of books with the sole purpose of learning how to live a meaningful and enjoyable life. Then I found my inspiration! Dr. Bene Brown’s Ted Talk about the power of being vulnerable struck a chord deep inside of me. You can watch the video at the bottom of the page. I immediately ordered her book, Daring Greatly.
3. Daring Greatly
The phrase Daring Greatly is from Theodore Roosevelt’s speech “The Man in the Arena” delivered on April 23,1910. This is the passage that made him famous, and is how Dr. Bene Brown starts her book:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or whether the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…”
4. Dispelling The Myth
Dr. Bene Brown dispels the myth that allowing yourself to be vulnerable, makes you weak. She argues that being vulnerable, is the greatest measure of our courage. I never had the courage to put myself out there, whether it be in my relationships or in my work, for of the fear of getting hurt or criticized.
I want to be brave enough to epically fail, wipe the dirt off my face and try again. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life standing on the outside looking in, wondering what it would be like if I finally had the courage to step into the arena…so here I go! Join me on my journey!